In Search of Next Generations Pastor at EPT, Carter’s Cove NL.

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We are so pleased to announce that as a church family, we are looking for someone to fill the role of Pastor to Next Generations here at Emmanuel Pentecostal Tabernacle, Carter’s Cove. Below you will find a description of the position. To apply, please send your resume and a cover letter to

The future is bright.

Pastor Josh Singh and the Board of Deacons of EPT

Next Gen Pastor Position- EPT, Carter’s Cove


Thin Red Line: How Understanding the Difference Between Conviction and Condemnation Could Save Your Preaching Career.


“You can attract more flies with honey than you can with vinegar.” I was told one time by a more seasoned preacher after I had just delivered a seminar on “Challenging the Process” at our denomination’s district youth leadership weekend. It was like getting punched in the face to hear those words. To be very honest, I wanted to punch him in the face. How dare he take his valuable time to help a young 23 year old guy? How dare he say anything that would invest in me as a preacher? How dare he…Actually in hindsight; that was probably one of the best pieces of advice I had ever gotten.

You see, like many young inexperienced communicators I was trying to find my own voice. My biggest problem however was that I did not speak truth in love (Ephesians 4:15) towards the audiences God had so graciously given me to steward. I was harsh, I came off as mean and  very condemning. I would always hide behind the phrase “I’m just preaching what’s in the Bible!” The truth however was that I really wanted to be the “cool” rebel that spoke the subversive words of Jesus to pharisaical Christians so that religion would be crushed and biblically sound orthodoxy would win victoriously…unfortunately, I failed to do any of it with the same love and care that Jesus had for His audience.

At the core of my heart were the terrible three: Cynicism, arrogance and pride. Ultimately, I didn’t trust that God could convict the world of their sin (John 16:8) or Christians of their apathy, so I took the Holy Spirit’s job into my hands. The only thing I didn’t realize was that in my hands and from my sinful heart, conviction quickly turns into condemnation.

I see the same mistake being made all the time by preachers. This I would say, is more prominent amongst young guys and galls trying to find their preaching voices. However, it is also an all too common occurrence among more seasoned preachers, many of whom bear the scars of frontline ministry: tired souls, hurt feelings, haunting regrets and dashed dreams.

Perhaps even, you are one of these: You have been preaching for a long time and expected different results from your years of lovingly sharing God’s Word with your audience. It doesn’t seem to to be getting through. Your people are still stuck in the same sins, the same habits and the same destructive patterns that they were in when you began preaching to them. Perhaps out of your frustration you’ve allowed your voice to get harsher and your tone to become a little more aggressive.

Let’s be clear about how God uses preaching. As a preacher, your job is to simply, prophetically and with love share with all people, God’s word to them. Even before your words from the Word come off of your mouth in proclamation, the Holy Spirit has already been softening, exchanging  and remoulding hearts of stone for hearts of flesh (Ezekiel 11:19, Ezekiel 36:26) both through regeneration and sanctification.  It is an amazing privilege that you have been called to this work and that God has graciously chosen you to equip and build up the body of Christ to maturity (Ephesians 4:11-14).

Preaching is God using YOUR mouth for HIS work, for HIS glory in HIS world and in HIS church. Preaching is not you using HIS Word for YOUR work and YOUR glory in YOUR world and in YOUR church. 

Let’s be clear about condemnation…

Condemnation is when you sentence someone to a particular punishment. Most references to condemnation in the biblical text find their finality is an eschatological reality. In the end when all stand before the Lord, He as a just judge will carry out the sentence of the rebellious choice of the human race in the garden of Eden (Gen 3). Here is what is interesting, the text in no way implies that the Lord is the one condemning, but rather it was the choice of Adam and Eve to rebel and disobey that condemned us all (Romans 5:12-21). The human race is condemned to an eternity without God, not by God’s doing but rather by ours. We are already condemned.

“For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him. Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only Son of God.” (John 3:17-18, ESV)

So, when a preacher gets behind the pulpit and takes on the role of a judge rather than a prophet he/she is walking a very dangerous road. It would be like if one criminal guilty of a crime, sentenced another criminal for committing the same crime. It really makes no sense.  The job of the preacher is not to become God’s earthly judge to people, but rather to humbly be a herald by which God can proclaim His incredible invitation to all people through the cross of Christ to be saved from the condemned state they find themselves in. This is the glorious grace of the gospel that every preacher needs to become excellent at preaching week in and week out to the people they serve.

How much more should these words from Jesus be applied to preachers and our preaching?

“Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven; give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.” (Luke 6:37-38, ESV)

Does this mean that a preacher shouldn’t preach about sin or what the Bible says about culturally sensitive issues? No way. However…The way you say something/ anything makes an enormous difference. When condemnation is flung from the pulpit at the core of it you will always find the heart of the preacher: Prejudice, pride, narcissism, a sense of superiority that stems from the office they hold. All of these throughout history have corrupted the hearts of some of the greatest preachers and if we are not careful will joyfully claim us as victims.

Watch your heart. What’s inside will come out and you’ll be accountable for it. 

Conviction from a biblical perspective is the work of the Holy Spirit to save lost people and to sanctify God’s people into the image of Jesus. The Spirit is at work regenerating, calling, convicting people far from God that they need a saviour to save them from the grip of sin (John 16:8). The Holy Spirit also convicts God’s people of sin so as to change them into the image of Jesus (Romans 8:28-31). For both of these works, God has seen it fit to bless the church with men and women who would become prophetic bullhorns. People that would preach and teach in a humble manner so as to ensure that what God is saying to the world and to His church is unadulterated. This responsibility should transcend  denominational allegiance or church network. The human preacher holds God’s very breath (2 Tim 3:16) in his/her hand and has been commissioned by God to share it.

As you continue to prepare this week for your sunday morning, sunday night, youth, young adult, small group, women’s group or men’s group gatherings; ask yourself a few very important questions: “Where does my heart find itself towards the people I serving with the sermon?” “What are my goals in preaching this sermon?” What is my motivation for preaching this particular sermon?” “Have I preached this sermon to myself?”

If you are honest through this process, you’ll find that the Lord will graciously correct you  in the areas of your heart that need correcting and He’ll prepare your heart to do the work He has called and commissioned you to do. You’ll then be preaching from a place of conviction and humility…That’s not a bad place to start your sermon from.

Happy preaching.

Social Media Fail: The Way Pastors Use Social Media Matters.


“I was wrong. Can you forgive me?”

On many occasions over the last 3 years I have had to say these words many times to many many people for the way my use of social media has hurt/disillusioned/offended them. It has been the most difficult, but at the same time, the best 3 years of my life.

In the summer of 2009, Carrie and I were transitioning from a ministry position in Ottawa to a new one in Charlottetown. My head was in an awful place. I was hurt, confused and unclear about many things pertaining to the church, life and ministry. I had all this stuff inside of me that needed to be processed, rebuked and challenged but unfortunately I felt like there was only a select few leaders I could talk to about these things and many of them were in the same head space I was.

I had been introduced to a few cynical “Jesus” blogs that fed into a lot of poison that was seeping into my spirit. I was also introduced to a few authors who were asking many of the same questions I was, but instead of finding the answers I needed, these books instilled a “the establishment is stupid, and you need to confront everything wrong with it” attitude inside of my heart.

So, without seeking godly wisdom, without any second guessing I took to social media with many of my “new” ideas and paradigms to try to “re-imagine” “re-paint” “re-something” the church. I felt like a maverick, a rebel along with a few friends who would change the church forever.

But…6 months into posting very weird, very divisive stuff on my Twitter/ Facebook feeds and blog I started noticing that many friends, family and ministry colleagues started un-following and un-friending. Literally, the very sinful thought that came to my head was “These guys can’t handle the truth!” I quickly became the most judgmental, arrogant and divisive person in my own life. The saddest part of this was…I thought that THEY were the judgmental, arrogant and divisive ones. How ugly. How wrong I was.

It literally took God taking away ministry opportunities, fights with family and the loss of friendships to stop me. I have lost years of familial, friendship and ministry investment because I was trying to work out my struggles, arrogantly flashing my pride and my un thought through ideas on various social media outlets. I was wrong.

In the last 3 years I have had to vigourously repent to many people by directly messaging them and seeking their forgiveness. I have had to initiate many conversations with people I have disillusioned with the garbage I posted and tell them how wrong I was. It has not been easy, but by God’s grace He has seen me through all this and has shown me so many things about holiness, the church, pastoring, leadership, being a godly man, a godly husband and being a godly dad.

The reason I am even writing this is because I have noticed many of the same patterns in many younger (and sometimes older) pastors that I have the privilege of serving with. My heart wants nothing more than to help leaders avoid falling into the same traps and patterns I did. So, here are a few lessons I have learned along the way that I hope the Holy Spirit uses to lead you into godliness as you use your pastoral platform in conjunction with your social media feeds.

You’re a Pastor, Not a Blogger: There is a huge difference between being a pastor and being an amateur/professional blogger. As a pastor you have a responsibility to equip and build up the local church for both growth in Christ and missional engagement. In the end when we stand before the Lord, Christian bloggers will have to give account for what they have done, but you and I will have to give an account for not only ourselves, but also for those Christ gave us to lead. Whether you like it or not, you are called to a higher standard than the rest. In no way does this mean you have to be perfect or make it even seem like you are, but it does mean that because of your office, Christ has made you His under-sphepherd that is responsible for leading His flock. Take the pastoral call seriously, because it is a serious call. If you’re a pastor that blogs, your pastoral vocation should always take precedent over and influence your blogging.

You’re allowed to Struggle, Just Don’t Heap The Responsibility of Your Care on Your Congregation: I know that the church is God’s family. I know that we all struggle through practical living and theological issues. I know that God is constantly changing His church into the likeness of Christ through the Spirit’s sanctifying power. For you pastor, your struggles must not be hidden, they must be dealt with, but they must be dealt with carefully. Many of your younger congregation members are on your social media feeds. They watch as you post inappropriate comments about your spouse, your frustrations and the dramas going on in your life. It’s not wrong for people to see you being vulnerable, we definitely need more of that. Just remember to carefully  share these things with wisdom and complete clarity. If you’re going to be transparent, do it in a way that leaves nothing to be discussed in the church foyer after Sunday morning service (gossip specifically). Believe it or not many in your congregation love you and when you “digitally dump” on them, they are burdened down with a weight they often times cannot bear.

You’re Personal Preferences Do Not Hold the Same Weight as Biblical Truth: I’m sure the people who have chosen to follow you online do appreciate and enjoy seeing your opinion about things. But in the end, many of your posts are just your opinion. Unfortunately, many young leaders post opinion pieces like they are on the same level as the Holy Scriptures. Last time I checked, the Biblical Canon is closed and if what you have to say doesn’t line up with the Biblical text, then…It really is not that important and you and I should really stop acting like it is. You may not like something, but be aware that there are people in your congregation that do. Don’t unnecessarily offend the sheep in your care with your preferences.

Protect The People You Love, Don’t Embarrass Them: I get that sometimes you’ll have a funny looking picture of your spouse on your phone/camera that is totally unflattering and hilarious. I get that telling the world the funny things your kids do or say is awesome, just please use discernment as you post all this stuff. You are one flesh with your spouse and a laugh/jab at their expense is cowardly and falls very short of God’s commands to us in marriage. Those pics and sayings from your kids are cute for a moment, but have the potential of haunting your children for the rest of their lives. Being married to a pastor and being a PK is difficult enough as it is. Protect, honour and cherish these people with all you’ve got. You might gain some “likes” and “retweets” but none of your facebook friends or twitter followers will be holding your hand when you are on your death bed. Some things are meant to be memories that only your family shares. Not everything has to go viral.

Criticizing Other Leaders is Not Your Job: It is no secret that there are certain televangelist, Christian personalities or other pastors that you and I may not like. Realistically, there are some people that don’t like you or I either. Your pastoral job description is not to spend all your time telling everyone on your facebook feed what is wrong with a certain Christian personality. I can just hear it now “What about sound doctrine?” “What about contending for the faith?” To both of these I say “Yes!” and “Amen!” But both of these are better done by addressing your particular church context or on an individual basis as people have questions. It is not your job to police the internet, it is your job however to faithfully pastor the people in your congregation. You aren’t Rick Warren or Francis Chan. When God calls you to that then type of “Big Body” ministry, we’ll talk.

Respectful Conversation is Good, Mean Spirited Arguments are Bad: Not everything you post will people agree with. That is completely ok. What is not ok is when you attack people for disagreeing with you. People will be people and have their own perspectives about things, sometimes rightly and sometimes wrongly. You have better things to do pastor then to get involved with a 102 mean spirited comment thread about a quote that has probably been taken out of a greater context from the Bible or book you’re reading. You may try to pull the “But I am pastoring people by responding.” Can I just say…that’s the dumbest thing I have ever heard. If you want to shepherd someone through something, make an appointment to counsel them face to face. You just pridefully  want to be right and unfortunately that desires leaves a trail of hurt sheep behind you.

If You Have Something to Say, Don’t Say it Through a Masked Status: Some days in ministry are difficult. Things don’t always go the way you want them to, people annoy you (you annoy them sometimes btw) and sometimes you just want to explode. Expressing your frustrations about your congregation or particular congregation members through a mask profile status is the wrong way to respond to frustration. The people involved are smart enough to read between the lines. If you have something to say, make sure that first and foremost you pray about it. God can handle your frustrations. Sometimes you will need to address things with your congregation and with individual members, just don’t add any extra drama by posting something potentially divisive and hurtful in a moment of frustration. Pray and then address the issue…preferably face to face.

I hope that these lessons can help some of us be better use social media as a tool to both equip and build up the church, rather than a weapon with which we beat up the sheep Christ has entrusted us with.

As we as pastors attempt to use social media and all this new ever changing technology, let’s strive to do for God’s glory and not our own.

So I Wrote A Song Last Week…



Originally posted on So We Build:

Psalm 23, from The Voice translation
The Eternal One is my Shepherd, He cares for me always.
He provides me rest in rich, green fields
besides streams of refreshing water.
He soothes my fears;
He makes me whole again,
steering me off worn, hard paths to roads where truth and righteousness echo His name.
Even in the unending shadow of death’s darkness,
I am not overcome by fear.
Because You are with me in those dark moments,
near with Your protection and guidance,
I am comforted.
You spread out a table for me,
provisions in the midst of attack from my enemies;
You care for all my needs. anointing my head with soothing, fragrant oil,
filling my cup again and again with Your grace.
Certainly Your faithful protection and loving provision will pursue me,
where I go, always, everywhere.
I will always be with the Eternal One,
in Your house…

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Sacred & Secular

An incredibly encouraging video for all those who are stay at home moms, designers, managers, teachers…anyone who is not in full time ministry, but loves to serve the church and struggles between doing their day job and their passion for ministry. Lecrae breaks down the unbiblical idea of a sacred and secular divide. I hope this encourages you to bring glory to God in your vocational life.

When You Just Don’t Have an Answer.

For all you parents…

Maybe you woke up this morning feeling a bit like a failure when it comes to raising your kids… I know I did. I hope this poetic devotional helps you to keep perspective today. Be encouraged, you’re not alone.

He is good…Even when we are overwhelmed and confused.


“I Ain’t Got an Answer.”

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Framework: Everyone Worships Something.

The older I get the more I realize that everybody worships something.

Whether you or I put it in this type of “religious” terminology, the reality is that where your affections, thoughts and heart lie is where your “god” can be found.

If your affections, thoughts and heart constantly revolve around getting more stuff for your house, clothes or the newest tech gadget, then your god is stuff.

If your affections, thought and heart constantly revolve around how much money you can make or get, wealth, riches and how to become part of a certain tax bracket, then your god is money.

If your affections, thoughts and heart constantly revolve around your kids, your parents, your spouse and all your worry and anxiety is invested into their well being and safety, then your god is your family.

If your affections thoughts and heart constantly revolve around how you can get your spouse to have sex with you, How sexy the people that surround you are, undressing everyone you see or even the obvious of getting alone with a computer to satisfy your lustful obsession, then your god is sex.

If your affections, thoughts and heart constantly revolve around how you deserve the best in life, that nothing is ever your fault or that everyone, including the universe is against you, then your god is you.

this one is for the church leader…

If your affections, thoughts and heart constantly revolve around how to make church better, your church work and how to best impress the people of the church, then your god is church.

the list of course could go on and on.

Whatever you worship affects and sets the very framework of your life. If you worship money, sex, self, church, stuff etc then that very thing/person(s) will determine how you spend your time, money, talents, skills and all your other resources.

Your “god” will also determine how everything in your life interacts together.

For the Christian, it should look something like this…

If your affections, thoughts and heart need to constantly revolve around Jesus, His perfect sinless life, death resurrection and coming again, then your God is Jesus.

We Christians often wonder why our lives don’t reflect the realities of the Bible we say we hold so dear. Peace often evades us, bondage to sin overwhelms us and every corner of our lives seem completely and utterly chaotic.

Here is just a thought…

Maybe Christ really isn’t your God.

Perhaps you’ve grown up in this Christian thing, got saved to avoid hell or maybe you’ve been presented one side of the good news about Jesus. It all sounded good, you said a prayer, you did and still do all the right “Christian things,” but in the end… your affections, thoughts and heart truly belong to another.

It’s kinda like when a girl brings home a nice boy for her parents approval, but only does it to throw them off of the scent of the guy she really wants to be with. Ultimately she knows her parents would never approve of this guy, but the facade gets her the best of both worlds.

In the end…it never works out and If Jesus really is your God, then he demands your loyalty. He won’t used as a facade or be second string.

“No one can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and money.” (Matthew 6: 24)

Here Christ is speaking specifically about money and possessions, but the principle can apply to anything. Your heart can only have one master.

Everyone worships something. Who really is the master of your heart?

Character Tunnelling: Why Focusing on the Extremes of Jesus’ Character is Not Good for Your Spiritual Health.

I have noticed a disturbing trend that has probably been around for a long time. I have participated in this particular practice and am ashamed to actually admit it.

It is an exercise I like to call… Character Tunnelling. You’ve likely seen this before. It’s when people focus in on a particular characteristic that a person may hold and they either celebrate or demonize them based on that one characteristic. 

We have all seen this done to politicians, celebrities, our friends, family etc. 

What is particularly shallow about this practice is that it does not in any way look at a person with a balanced perspective. It automatically creates a line of division between the person bringing forward the observation, the one of whom the observation is being made of and those on the outskirts listening to these particular observations being defended and refuted.

The problem with Character Tunnelling is that it robs of us of fully enjoying and truly understanding the people who surround us.

Oddly, for the Christian, it seems to me that we have applied the practice of Character Tunnelling not only to human beings, but also to Jesus, our “unifying” saviour.

Here is what I mean…

For many Christians and churches it seems like the common practice is to focus in on a particular characteristic of Jesus and make that our primary emphasis. For example, some churches focus on the fact that Jesus was loving (father’s love churches), some on his subversiveness (anti institutional churches), others on his compassion (social justice churches) and still others on his justice primarily (turn or burn churches).

The tragedy in this however is that all this Character Tunnelling of Jesus has caused much division within the very Church that would call Jesus Lord. Slander, mockery and sometimes full on hatred for those who do not hold to a particular emphasis of Christ’s character seems to be rampant amongst the evangelical community in general. In my opinion, this is utter foolishness.

here is what concerns me…

Is Jesus loving?…YES!

Is Jesus subversive…YES!

Is Jesus compassionate…YES!

Is Jesus just?…YES!

If the answer to all these and many other wonderful characteristics of Christ is YES! than why aren’t we emphasizing all of them?

By focusing in on only a few of Christ’s characteristic we actually…

Demonstrate a very shallow understanding of Christ.

Demonstrate a very shallow love and care for those in our spiritual family.

And ultimately the sad reality is that…

We demonstrate a very shallow Jesus to the world.

Christ is eternally deep and wide. For any one of us as individuals, churches or denominations to actually think we have Jesus emphasized appropriately is absolute absurdity. We MUST learn from one another and help each other come to a greater and higher Christology than ever before.

Also, by willfully choosing to be disunited from our fellow brothers and sisters in other evangelical camps (let’s begin here evangelicals) is actually sinful. We are united by the truth and reality of the Gospel. Without it, all of our distinctives and secondary emphases would cease to exist.

What God has done through Jesus for us must be at the centre of all we do and who we are. That is where our unity begins.

May we have the courage to break down barriers and help each other discover our Christ.

(Jesus Approved) Christian Dating tips: 18 Common Sense Principles for Dating.

Over the last few weeks, I’ve been observing many of my brothers and sisters within the Christian dating scene. I have to say, many of them are really stupid (us married folks are stupid too, we have our own sets of problems). So, yesterday I decided to go on a rant on facebook. Throughout the day, I posted stuff about dating, things I wished someone would have told me  when I was a teenager came to mind. As I was inspired, I posted. This resulted in 18 tips for those in the Christian dating scene. 

Hope these help.

If you have any tips for Christian dating, feel free to comment…just try to be semi nice ;)  

Christian dating tip #1: If you need your parents to drive you to a date or if you need to ask them for money to take someone out…you shouldn’t be dating.

Christian dating tip #2: If you are under sixteen, your dating status on your facebook should always say “single.” You are way too young to be holding anyone awkwardly or spending hours on the phone listening to someone breathe.

Christian dating tip #3: Contrary to popular belief Taylor Swift is probably someone you shouldn’t be taking any relationship advice from. Ask a godly couple who has ventured through storms together what you should be expecting and looking for in a partner.

Christian dating tip #4: Ladies, just because a guy doesn’t look like Chantum Tanning doesn’t mean he isn’t date-able. What would you rather… a guy who looks like an underwear model but treats you like crap or an average looking dude that loves Jesus, has integrity, leads you spiritually, will encourage you to follow God’s call and will be an incredible husband and father?

Christian dating tip #5: Fellas, The reason all the Christian girls are dating non Christian guys is because when they look in the church they aren’t seeing brothers who exemplify Christ. Why would they stick around for you when they can get the same thing…maybe even better from dudes outside the church? Man up…persue holiness and righteousness.

Christian dating tip #6: Sisters, If you wear junk that makes you look like a prostitute or a video vixen and expect to get a godly man, you’re dreaming. All you’re going to get are the perverted brothers in the church who are after feeling you up. Even in 2012 modesty still matters. Have enough respect for 1) the Lord (who created that body of yours) and 2) for yourself. If you’re dressing like Beyonce I don’t even want to hear about how there are no good men in the church. You’re only attracting the wrong kind.

Christian dating tip #7: If you can’t commit, then don’t bother getting into a relationship or get out of the one you are in as fast as you can. There is nothing worse than feeling like you have to commit to a relationship you don’t really care about.

Christian dating tip #8: Beware of any dude or girlie that says “I love you” too quickly. Either they want to get in your pants or they have mommy/daddy issues. Love is not a feeling, but lust and loneliness are.

Christian dating tip #9: Fellas, Getting into a relationship or getting married to stop looking at porn or masturbating doesn’t work. You’ll be bringing that junk into your relationship and marriage. It will cause you some major grief and pain. It’s a heart issue that only God can take care of. Lean into Christ.

Christian dating tip #10: If your boyfriend/girlfriend can’t pray with you because they 1) Don’t pray out loud or 2) think it’s awkward…dump them. They are not the person that will be able to encourage and challenge you spiritually through the hard times of life.

Christian dating tip #11: If your parents don’t approve of the person you are dating…you need to kick them to the curb. The wisdom of godly parents can keep you from tons of pain and hurt in your relationship life. Honor your parents.

Christian dating tip #12: Ladies, how a dude treats his mama will tell you a lot about the kind of man he is and what he values. One day you will be the most important woman in his life, how is he going to treat you?

Christian dating tip #13: Ladies, don’t use your bodies like weapons to manipulate guys in showing you how much they care about you. Someday it’s going to backfire on you. Find your identity first in God’s love that took 3 nails on a cross for you: Jesus.

Christian dating tip #14: pre marital sex and sexual immorality (ANY sexual acts outside of marriage) are sin…period. If you don’t like that, take it up with all the persons of the Trinity..

Christian dating tip #15: If you break up with someone, don’t blame it on Jesus. Don’t make Christ look bad just because you are a coward. 

Christian dating tip #16: Ladies, if the guy you like treats you nicely when you’re alone, but disrespects and puts you down around his boys…He’s a loser and he’s definately not worth your time.

Christian dating tip # 17: Using your FB status and your tweets to post all your relationship drama in the form of song lyrics is stupid. Grow up and have an actual face to face conversation with your significant other.

Christian dating tip #18: If you feel like you need to be someone other than the person God has created you to be when you’re with your significant other, get rid of them. You should be loved for the fearfully and wonderfully made creation you are.